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Can I do TRE® safely on my own ?

Updated: Sep 18, 2019

That's a question I have been asked often - and it needs a meaningful answer. I have taught TRE® to many people and use tremoring for myself for more than 8 years. I started 'on my own' and some people I taught had also picked up TRE® from the book, the DVD, were introduced by a friend or family member or attended a TRE® introduction or one-off workshop.


I can safely say that there are indeed pointers toward a 'yes you can' or 'no rather not' and I will share them with you :


HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THE IDEA OF LAYING ON YOUR BACK WHILE YOUR BODY IS SHAKING ?

Does it sound ridiculous ? Dangerous? Interesting ? Why not? Cool ? Always wanted to do that ? Can't imagine I will feel safe with that ? Will be a great new experience ?

Do you remember any instances of spontaneous shaking ? Did you ever see other people tremble ? In which context did that happen ? How did it occur to you ?


If you can say:


"Yes, I understand that there is a kind of shaking that kicks in when people are overwhelmed and the shaking is a way to RELEASE the physical and emotional charge and calm down." -

you have done the first step toward safety in TRE®.



HOW IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO YOUR BODY ?

Do you like your body ? Care for your body ?

Are you grateful for your body ?

Do you like some parts of your body and reject other parts ?

Do you think of the outside of your body more than about the inside ?

Do you know what's going on inside ?

Are you interested in how your body works ?

Do you enjoy living in your body ?

Do you hate your body ?

Do you generally know what your body wants and needs ?

Do you listen ? Do you try to give your body what it asks for ?

Do you trust your guts ?

Do you rely on your intuition ?

If you could choose, would you rather like to feel more ? Less ?

Are you numbing your body with recreational, illegal or prescription drugs ?

Are you enhancing your energy and feelings with recreational, illegal or prescription drugs ?

Do you like touch ?

Do you enjoy touching yourself ?(any kind of touch!)

Do you enjoy being touched ? (not just sexual, any kind of touch)

Do you feel pleasure often ? Easily? Seldom ? Never ?

What's your pain tolerance ? Low ? High ?


Have you ever experienced both - a fight and a flight impulse clashing in such a way that you felt unable to do either ? Like a stall, a blue screen, a frozen frame ? Have you felt immobilised ? Stiff and unable to move at all ?


Try to remember your childhood scares - innocent scares like getting lost in a crowd, being scared of a dog, jumping from a hight, diving into water - as well as moments of emotional or physical abuse or sudden pain from accidents and injuries.


What was your first reaction ? The second ? How did it resolve ? What or who calmed you down ?



WHAT OR WHO HELPED YOU TO CALM DOWN AND FEEL SAFE ?

Your Mother or Father ? A brother or sister ? Another human being you trusted ?

Being among people in general ? Hearing the voices of people you know ?

Hearing familiar sounds around your home?

Did you calm down with comfort food to eat ?

Did you feel safe in your home ? In your own room ? In your bed ?

Did you feel safer when being just by yourself with no one around ?

Did you go outside into nature to feel safe ?

Did you have an invisible friend who listened to you ?

A pet ? Animals in general ?


Even the best parents cannot always be available for a child growing up - so everyone has to find ways of creating safety for themselves.

What did you find worked for you ?

Does it still work ?

Are you still using - or trying to use - your earliest 'tools' for safety ?

Have you left them behind and found new ones ?

Better ones ?